What I Want In A Guy

I was watching ‘Boyfriend Does My Makeup’ video on Youtube and I instantly fell in love with the boyfriend because he seems sweet and funny and not only that, he’s also handsome and dresses nicely. Where do I find this kind of guy? Seriously.

And that brings me to this topic. An ideal guy. I know such thing doesn’t exist but hey, a girl can dream, right?

PHYSICAL

• Deep, sexy voice. My absolute favorite is Clive Owen. Imagining him talking makes me go weak at the knees.
• Dress nicely. I see lots of girls walking around dress-to-the-nine and then most of the guys wearing old, ratty t-shirt with sandals. What’s up with that?
• Smell good. Smelling funky, that’s a bye bye for me.

PERSONALITY

• Great sense of humor. I’m always attracted to guys who can make me laugh. Vulgar joke is a no-no for me, though.
• Proper manner. With family and friends. At work. While eating. It goes a long way, you know.
• Knowledgeable. He doesn’t have to be the smartest guy in the world but he does have to have knowledge about things. It makes talking with him more interesting.
• Work hard. He knows what he wants. He sets goals and he will do everything to achieve them.
• Respectful. He doesn’t have to share the same ideals with me but he’s gotta respect what I believe in. He treats me as his equals, not someone below him.
• Supportive. Understanding. Loving. Humble. Mature.

HOBBY

• Love to eat. For me, eating is a way of life. My motto is, you live to eat not eat to live.
• Love to travel. I love exploring new places. If he loves traveling the same way  I do, then it would be exciting going on a trip together.

But most importantly though, it won’t matter if we don’t have any chemistry. It doesn’t matter if he has all the criteria I mentioned above but then we don’t hit it off. I once went on a date with a guy and he is everything I’ve been looking for but I wasn’t feeling it. I immediately lost interest. Just like that.

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Just Dance!

I’ve been listening to a lot of K-R&B songs nowadays and I’m obsessed with Dean and Crush.

Two weeks ago, I couldn’t stop listening to Dean – Half Moon (D) and one night, I decided to check out the music video. That brought me to a dance choreography video by 1 Million Studio. I instantly fell in love with Junsun Yoo, the choreographer! I found out more about him and turns out he’s YooA OhMyGirl’s brother! I started checking out his other dance choreography videos and I especially love Woo Ahh by Crush and Boys and Girls by Zico and Babylon. I religiously watch his video every day! That’s how much I love it! <3

There’s something fascinating and beautiful about how dancers move. You can be fluid and elegant but also strong and powerful. I’m so jealous of these people. I wish I could dance like them. I love dancing but I know my capability LOL.

Love Ain’t Trumps Hate

Unbelievable.

I was pretty optimistic that Hillary would win and then I turned on the news around 3 PM yesterday and I couldn’t believe my eyes. It’s there. The picture I posted above. Donald Trump is the president-elect of the United States of America. Man.

Not long after that, I saw so many posts from POC and minorities saying that they’re worried about their future. They’re angry. They’re in utter disbelief. How did this happen? How did we go from Barack Obama to Donald Trump?

I woke up this morning and I checked on my social media feed. People saying that they will fight. That they will stand together. They won’t give up standing up for what they believe in. Unite. Because together we are stronger. Isn’t that beautiful? Despite all the circumstances and the initial shock and anger, people respond with these beautiful and encouraging message.

I don’t know what’s gonna happen in the next 4 years but I hope and pray to God that it won’t be a living hell for all of us. Amen.

Introversion

I’ve been sick for the past few days so I’m now resting in my bed. I’m thinking, hey, why don’t I write a post on my blog? This is actually something that I’ve been wanting to share with everyone for quite some time. It’s something that’s really personal for me.

I remember when I was in 7th grade, my dad talked about an introvert and an extrovert and how they’re both different. He said that my sister is an extrovert while I am an introvert. I refused and told my dad that I’m not an introvert. An extrovert seems more fun. Outgoing. Sociable. Lots of friends. But who am I kidding? I have always been a quiet kid. Never talk much. Keeping things to myself. Prefer solitude over crowded place. Everything that I am perfectly describes an introvert.

As I get older, I realized that not only I’m an introvert, I also have social anxiety issue. I don’t talk much because I’m afraid that other people will judge me and think that I’m weird. I don’t socialize because I think that no one is interested in me enough to be friends with me. I over think things.

I don’t know how many times people thinking that I’m a stuck-up bitch because I don’t seem approachable (yes, yes, I have resting bitch face and I don’t think I can change that unless I have plastic surgery). How many times people (even my own family) forcing me to talk more with other people because it’s rude not to. It’s not that I don’t want to talk to people but I really don’t know what to talk about! My mind goes completely blank and when I do think of something, I said to myself that it sounds ridiculous so I stay silent. It happens all the time, it’s tiring.

It’s hard being an introvert and it’s even harder for me because of my social anxiety issue. The general public and the media are glorifying extrovert. You need to be bold! Be a people-person! Being quiet? No. There’s gotta be something wrong with you.

I wish people would let us be our introvert self. I found a bunch of great articles (1, 2, 3) about introvert so you would know more. Hopefully, you’ll get something out of reading those and won’t misunderstand us, the introvert, any longer. And to my introvert friends, here’s a comic that we can all relate to!

Evolving Style

Now that I’m almost 30 (gasp!), I feel like I need to change my style. There’s a couple of items in my wardrobe that I no longer wear because I just think it doesn’t suit me anymore.

Speaking of style, I have always had interest in fashion. I wanted to be a fashion designer when I grew up. I had lots of drawing books filled with drawings of stick figures in crazy outfits. Then I stopped drawing in middle school and started dressing up. My personal style had started to form in college. I wore mostly bright, colorful top paired with shorts. Then after I graduated, I shifted to more androgyny look by wearing shirts and sometimes with a blazer for a more refined look. Once I got a job, I started to buy more dresses.

My current favorite style is something clean and minimalist. If I had disposable income, I’d love to go and buy everything at COS, APC, Acne, The Row, The Kooples and the likes but unfortunately I don’t. The good news is that there are so many options in the market nowadays, especially with the booming online/Instagram fashion store which offers great selection of clothes with fraction of the price.

For me, I always pick an item that will last. Something that I can mix and match with another items that I already have. I rarely buy something that is on trend unless I’m 100% sure it will work with my style. Of course there were times that I caved and bought things that wouldn’t go well after a couple of seasons. What I did with those was giving it to donation so I won’t have a bunch of unused clothes pile up in my wardrobe.

To conclude, don’t let fashion trends steer you. Make your own style! Looking chic is not about wearing the most expensive and the latest fashion item but rather wearing what looks good in your body. If you look good, you’ll feel good. ;)